JabberJuls

“Trust”

Funny that that term is used when making a living will. It’s people trusting that their wishes are fulfilled. My sister, Robin, coldly tried to insist that I believe I was never comissioned by mom & dad to be their successor trustee. She believes I don’t know my parents and didn’t love them. Well, truth is—I DID. Mom & Dad did choose me to be there first successor, not Robin. According to the Legal Bowman Trust, I was honored with that position. Apparently, my siblings couldn’t allow me to experience that honor.

One month after my father’s death, my siblings caused such duress for my mom, isolated her & I with lies and ruthless jealousy issues, and took advantage of her with their manipulating overpowering abilities at a time of grief and her desire to have relationship with them that was never there–and changed the “trust”. She became totally dependent on them and felt abandoned by me because thats the nonsense they fed her. Because they didn’t respect me being there to help mom with decisions, they made it mentally impossible to keep peace. They wanted their way with Mom and mom gave into them to keep peace and have them there. She gave up her wishes to be with them. I backed off and honored Mom’s desire for them.

Yes, the first thing mom told me when we finally made peace with each other. She said to me and Russ, “They kept me drugged and made me change the will”. Wow…now things make sense.

Well, Seeing it in writing that I was given that honor– just reassures the blessings of real love my parents had for me. Its not in my mind. It wasn’t my misunderstanding. It was My honor. My heart smiles knowing that. For my siblings not to allow me to have that honor and force mom to change it–is their issue to face God over.

Only thing this whole situation has done for me is recognize my true place in my siblings lives. There is none, nor ever will be. They place value in things, rather than true family unification. Well, they’ll tell you, “No…Julie misunderstands. We love her and want to be family.” As their second face shows to me speaking cruel jealous remarks and isolation. Because if I communicate truth to them –then I’m just a problem. They see little picture that includes just themselves, can’t phathim the big picture –that includes all of us and how they affect me too.

Best answer is for me to let go, so they can live free of me.

Dad’s viewing was December 6, 2009 from 5 – 9pm. My sisters, brothers, and I were not sure what to do about flowers and were blessed to see all the love gifts of flowers that came in from all the family and friends that loved Dad. Many family and friends showed and blessed our family tonight. Thank you to all!

Richard Bowman’s funeral service will be held today December 7, 2009 at Glen Abbey’s Chapel of Roses, Bonita CA at 1pm. Commitment service to follow at crypt-sid and Family reception at local church afterwards. It’s already raining today. Why is it– that it always rains when sad things happen?

Obituary:
RICHARD ALLEN BOWMAN
CHULA VISTA, CA

Richard A. Bowman, 73, a 35 year resident of Chula Vista since 1974, Died December 1, 2009, at residence, Chula Vista. He was born July 10, 1936, in Detroit, MI, a son of the late Ulmont James Bowman and Violet Mary Bowman.
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He is survived by his wife, Nancy Jean Bowman; daughters: Kimberly (Maiden name: Bowman) unknown location, Robin Stokes of Chula Vista, Mrs. Wendy Johnson of Casper, WY, Mrs. Russell (Julie) Wittmann of Lakeside, CA; sons: David Bowman of Casper, WY, Mark Bowman of Phoenix, AZ; brothers: Robert Bowman and Garry Bowman; sisters: Delores Sweany and Linda Perna; 12 grandchildren, one step- granddaughter, step- great granddaughter, nieces, nephews, and cousins. Graduated from San Diego State University with a degree in Criminal Justice Administration. He served four years in the U.S. Army with highest rank E-5, Fifteen years in the Detroit Police Department as a Police Officer for five years and a Juvenile Detective for ten years, Retired on March 1, 2001 from the San Diego Unified School District Police Department as a Detective after 27 years. Total service in Police Services was 42 years.

Other articles to read regarding Mom & Dad:
http://jabberjuls.com/2006/12/01/living-each-day-as-if-its-your-last/

http://jabberjuls.com/2006/05/24/mom-dad-are-the-best/

Doris and Jack are located in the bottom center of the photo. Doris wearing a Red Shirt and Jack sitting next to her in the blue plaid shirt.

Doris Beasley passed away on Tuesday, February 26, 2008.

She is survived by her husband Jack and children.

Funeral Information as follows:

Date: Saturday, March 1, 2008.

Greenwood Memorial Park, Garden Chapel,
4300 Imperial Avenue
San Diego, CA 92113

Doris and Jack are treasured friends to my parents, Richard and Nancy Bowman, and my family too for several years now. Russ and I have had the pleasure of sharing many meals and family gatherings with Jack and Doris. They’ve become a significant part of the family. All Our love goes out to Jack during this time. Doris’s health has been taking a turn for the worse the last couple years, with some ups and downs, but Jack steadfastly stayed by her side through it all. What a team they’ve been. Please pray with us for the Lord to comfort him in a special way today. Thank you for your prayers.

Jeanne’s beautiful cat Arthur has passed away as of yesterday. Please keep Jeanne in your prayer for the Lord to comfort her in His precious way.

Jeanne we Love you and send our deepest sympathies your way.

If there is anything we can do for you, please let us know.

Juls & Family

If you’re grieving for your pet, here’s a wonderful article that may be encouraging to you. I found it on a Pet Loss Support website.

I apologize for not having the exact date of her death or any information regarding burial arrangements. In January, I learned that Pat passed away by word of my mother. Pat is survived by her children, Richard, James, John, and an older son that I never met. I believe she had some grandchildren by her older son and John, but I’ll have to double check with mom.
Pat Bolin was a good friend to my mother and our family for quite some time–ever since I was little Pat was coming over to our house to hangout, eat, celebrate, etc with us. She was definitely a part of the family.

I knew her and remember her as a good woman that loved Jesus. She was tough on the outside, yet soft-hearted and a deeply caring lady. I remember her generousity and kindness that she always gave to me and my boys – Tim & Luke when they were younger. She lived through lots of hardships, health challenges, and good times too. We love you Pat and will miss you dearly. My deepest sympathies go out to Richard, James, John, and all the family.

In Loving Memory of Kathy L. Sweany

January 14, 1956 ~ August 8, 2006
(50 years old)

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Kathy L. Sweany is survived by her Husband, Curtis Sweany, 3 children, and 2 grandchildren. She was an extraordinary woman that loved everyone she was around. She encouraged many people by Greeting at the Bonita Valley Community Center Doors each Sunday and participated actively in the Cancer Support Group there also. Curtis and Kathy shared 30 wonderful loving years of marriage together. She was an ideal daughter-in-law and excellent mother and grandmother. Her life has touched many hearts and will be cherished dearly.

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August 11, 2006

Visitation:
Bonita Valley Community Church
4744 Bonita Road
Bonita, CA
2pm – 5pm

Funeral Service:
Bonita Valley Community Church
4744 Bonita Road
Bonita, CA
5pm

Officiant: Pastor Jack Houston

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I lift up my eyes to the hills—
where does my help come from?
My help comes from the LORD,
the Maker of heaven and earth.
He will not let your foot slip—
he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel
will neither slumber nor sleep.
The LORD watches over you—
the LORD is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day,
nor the moon by night.
The LORD will keep you from all harm—
he will watch over your life;
the LORD will watch over your coming and going
both now and forevermore.

Psalms 121